What’s life without any move, on second birthday?

24 Jun

Dear friends,
My expectations in life were reduced to zero, the day I decided to undergo tracheotomy for continuous mechanical ventilation, without which I couldn’t spare life’s end. Every day since that moment seems like a new birth in life for me.
Today, it’s my second birthday, and I’d like to share with you the experience I had during these two years. I could put end to my life, but it would be a big mistake. Life is beautiful even with so dark conditions. There is always something to do and succeed in it; and I haven’t done badly.
In the first year, I’ve wrote two books: Ma vie, mon histoire and Conseils pratiques pour la santé des enfants.
In the second year, I’ve signed them via Skype, from my bed and because of my physical conditions, during the French book exhibition of Beirut at the end of October 2012. It was a very successful signing with contribution of all my friends. Because of the real success of both books, especially my autobiography and what’s including of life messages, I’ve decided to spread moreover those messages and I translated this book to Arabic and English. The second book translation being so expensive, I postponed it for later time. Besides, I’ve started a novel, but I suspend writing for the moment, being busy in preparing and presenting medical conferences to doctors and medical students, and always from my bed. Now, my thoughts about life are becoming more mature, and I have lots of things to say to my family and my friends. And, I’m looking for diffusing these ideas to universities students and communities in Lebanon and all over the world.
I wanted to write to you my thoughts, in the hope, that it will give me the opportunity to spread hope, and desire of life to many people, especially the youth among you.
I love my life just as I love yours. Together, the possibilities for us are just ridiculous.
People often expect someone with a severe disability to be inactive, maybe even angry and withdrawn. I like to surprise them, by showing that I lead a very adventurous and fulfilling existence… It’s a life beyond borders.
Today, though, my life is beyond anything we could have imagined. Every day I receive messages from strangers via e-mail and Facebook, telling me, that I have touched their lives in some way, they can’t describe. Facing that, I feel that I am truly blessed, and I am ridiculously happy.
What I could not foresee was that my disability or my “burden,” could also be a blessing, offering me unique opportunities, for reaching out to others, sympathizing with them, understanding their pain, and offering them comfort.
Yes, I do have distinct challenges, but also I am blessed with a loving family, an enough vivid mind, and a deep, everlasting faith.
At first, I was not willing to confront that what was really wrong with me, wasn’t my body, it was the limits I put on myself, and my limited vision of the possibilities for my life. God has used me to reach people in countless places and countries.
Better, I’ve been in contact with thousands of people, which allow me to tell them how very precious they are. It’s also my pleasure to assure them, that God also does have a plan for their lives. He took my breathless body, and invested me, with the ability to uplift hearts and encourage spirits.
The world ages us too fast, we grow up too quickly, we stop dreaming too early, and we develop the ability to worry too far at young age.
So, when one get sick, he hasn’t to be afraid and it’s useless to be worried. We have to treat sickness with optimism whether we’re poor or rich. Let doctors handle our body, God handle our life, but we have to be in charge of our own moods. If worries can cure our sickness or prolong our life or can be exchanged for happiness, then we can go ahead and be worry; but it never can be. Concerning me, it was a waste of time to be angry about my disability. I had to get on with life, and I haven’t done badly.
There’s a wonderful truth that’s so central to living. I find it extraordinary that schools and universities do not teach it. The essential truth is this: Each of us has some gift; a talent, a skill, a craft or a knowledge, that gives us pleasure and engages us, and the path to our happiness, often lies within that gift. But most sensible people know that, there are no easy routes for long term happiness.
If we place our bets on temporary pleasures, we will find only temporary satisfaction. With cheap thrills, we get what we pay for: here today, gone tomorrow.
Life isn’t about having, it’s about being.
We could surround ourselves with all that money can buy, and we could still be as miserable as a human can be. I know people with perfect health, who don’t have half the happiness I’ve found.
I’m here to tell you my friends that no matter what your circumstances may be, as long as you are breathing, or assisted in breathing, like me, you have a contribution to make.
What’s good in a life without any move, except the eyes?
Just by looking at me, people know that I faced, and overcame many obstacles and hardships. That makes them willing to listen to me, as a source of inspiration.
They allow me to share my faith, to tell them they are loved, and to give them hope. That is my contribution. It’s important to everyone to recognize his own value. Everyone must know that he also, has something to contribute.
There are some occurrences in life that are not our fault, or within our power to stop. The choice we have is either to give up, or to keep on striving for a better life.
If we try to stay positive, things will get better. Positive thoughts are always rewarding. My advice is to know, that everything happens for a reason, and in the end good will come of it. I didn’t know that I was different, or that many challenges awaited me.
I’m sure that for every disability we have, we are blessed with more than enough abilities, to overcome our challenges.
God equipped me with an amazing amount of determination, and other gifts too:
I had iron will, unlimited love, unconditional faith, positive thoughts and developed technology, to overcome my motility limitation.
Often, we give to others the opportunity to become our enemies, and many times they fail in being as we are seeking. Why?
Because there is only one person, who can be responsible of our joy, and well being; this person is… each one of us. So, no one of our parents, our children, or our partner in life, can have the control on our happiness. They simply have the opportunity to share it with us, but real happiness lies inside us.
As a paralyzed man, I spent many nights praying for moving muscles.
I should go to sleep crying, and dreaming that I should wake up, to find myself miraculously moving. It never happened, of course, and I was not accepting myself.
Everyone goes through times when he feels excluded, alienated, or unloved.
We all have our insecurities. Feeling down is natural; it is part of being perfectly human. Such feelings pose a danger, only if we allow negative thoughts to stick around, instead of just letting them wash over us.
When you trust that we have blessings talents, knowledge, and love to share with others, we will begin the journey to self acceptance, even if our gifts are not yet apparent. Once we begin that walk, others will find us and walk with us.
My advice to my friends on my second birthday is encouraging and motivating: You can wish. You can dream. You can hope. But you must also act upon those wishes, those dreams, and those hopes. You must dream, believe, care and share because life ends when you stop dreaming, hope ends when you stop believing, love ends when you stop caring and reward ends when you stop sharing. You have to stretch beyond where you are, to reach where you want to be. I want you to know that I am just like you on the inside, but I had to go outside my comfort zone, to do that. Reaching out to you in this way, bring out for me awesome rewards.



21 Responses to “What’s life without any move, on second birthday?”

  1. RANDA TOHME ABOU ZEID June 24, 2013 at 11:44 am #

    U are our HERO…outside & inside you….. when am looking at u …and i see all this LOVE of LIFE even with all those new situations …i stand up with a huge respect to tell you: U are our hero and every small or big thing u did last year u give us A LESSON TO LOVE THE LIFE AND TO BE MORE THANKS FULL WITH a big faith ..courage… , May the LORD give you many years of life to teach us how we can deal with our bad situations and make it with a positives conditions even if is is hard ..bad..and for sure hurts…… WE LOVE YOU ..WAITING ANY NEW ..HAPPY BIRTHDAY OUR HERO Dr.Jamil………….

  2. Fadia Hadi Sadek June 24, 2013 at 6:31 pm #

    Hello doctor, i cannot ask you the usual question ( how are u? ) after reading the above. This question should be asked to ourselves not to you since we are completely lost and confused with this life which is loaded of worries. It is so touching, teaching, enjoying and feeling every single word you mentioned in your article above. Words cannot express how i feel when i read it. Really it makes us discover how weak we are when we face problems, but how you interpret them into strength and how we can benefit from our weakness by depending on our strong will and in our tremendous faith in God. We love you and God always Bless you !!!

  3. misst2elleh June 29, 2013 at 8:07 am #

    🙂 the people who knew you before ur illness would somehow accept and understand ur will to live and ur inner happiness. U have always given hope and patience to desperate moms and crying children. But u never stop to amaze me. I’m very proud to say I know you and I tell everyone that I do. Keep it up doc. Ur words always inspire me and make me a stronger person. ….

  4. Dr Roger Elkhoury June 29, 2013 at 5:26 pm #

    Life isn’t about having,it’s about being…and happiness comes from inside out….
    I am happy to hear these words ,happy to see you FREE my friend….Enjoy this freedom and enjoy flying beyond borders and keep on giving lessons of truth of living,lessons of compassion, hope and love…
    we do not need a walking body to do so,..we only need a loving heart and a peacefull mind..
    love you my friend

  5. wediane saoud June 29, 2013 at 9:15 pm #

    Very touchable… I know it’s very hard the life you have but your willingness, positive thoughts and your Faith in God will always lead you to a better life. Jesus Christ has put this in all of us but not all of us can see this… Hope that God will shine your life with more and more hope because you really deserve it.

  6. B Farhat June 30, 2013 at 5:08 pm #

    I love your story! It took me back about 15yrs. ago when I was a respiratory therapist attending to a client very much like you, in terms of als, love of life and positive attitude! It taught me a lot and I liked working with that patient very much and became a friend also from before the operation to coming home bed ridden for 4yrs. ’til he decided to check out! I like your faith in God and in Life and the way you expressed yourself. I hope and pray for you a miracle will happen soon and you gain your wellness and previous strength again. Until the, I wish you the best that could be expected. Seattle, wa.

    • jzogheib June 30, 2013 at 6:15 pm #

      i will never give up and i want to continue spreading hope even from bed and via skype, to any group asking

  7. Rania July 15, 2013 at 8:09 pm #

    Hello dr,
    It’s a been a while I haven’t write you, and tonight you came to my mind while I was reading a book for jean vanier and I thought I’ll say a small hi, but instead you said a big hello with a smiley face and heart full of love joy and peace! I am amazed that after your great success in you carrier you discovered your true talent and mission! How god is always full of great surprises!
    I hope your words will reach many hearts as mine so we can rise from the ashes and look at the tiny light that we couldn’t see anymore, to look again at god who’s always present and proven again and again that he never left us and will never do, but he is always so discret when he show his face it’s upon us to see listen and believe .
    Thank you for your courage, faith and love, and for your lovely word who are helping many of us!
    Take care dr

    • jzogheib July 17, 2013 at 1:31 pm #

      Thank you Rania, everyone has something to contribute in this life, and the happiness is reached when we find our real purpose, our pathway, and how we finish our journey! God be with you !

  8. nadine mikhael December 23, 2014 at 3:02 pm #

    Reblogged this on Soul of a Gypsy……Welcome to my Journey.

  9. yeseventhistoowillpass December 23, 2014 at 3:58 pm #

    Reblogged this on yes even this too will pass and commented:
    This man is a spiritually awake soul… I happened upon his story and realized, wow… By the grace of God go I….

  10. Yoshiko December 23, 2014 at 4:21 pm #

    Happy birthday, doctor

  11. LadyPinkRose December 23, 2014 at 5:24 pm #

    Just covered in goosebumps. Wow. Love, Amy

  12. kcg1974 December 23, 2014 at 9:12 pm #

    Happy, Happy “2nd Birthday” to you, a man who has touched my heart and soul with courage and vigor, love of life and appreciation for what is important…simply the ‘breath of air’ on any given day. God bless you and keep you in joy always and forever. How thankful I am to have ‘met’ you during this Christmas holiday season. A special ‘gift’ for me indeed. Blessings to you always.

  13. kcg1974 December 23, 2014 at 9:17 pm #

    Reblogged this on Chronic Conditions & Life Lessons and commented:
    Get down on your knees and thank God for your Christmas gifts of life and breath this holiday. Say, “Thank You” to this special man for blessing you with his courage in each word he ‘writes.’ A true gift to all of us. Merry Christmas.

  14. Julie Harris December 23, 2014 at 10:52 pm #

    Wow… what an inspiration you are! Many blessings to you, and may He continue to use your testimony to encourage others!

  15. Cathy Silva December 26, 2014 at 2:45 pm #

    Reblogged this on Holygroundwork and commented:
    This beautiful message demonstrates that no matter our circumstances there is a way to make a difference for our world and find true love and peace within ourselves. Love and Blessings, Cathy

  16. IdealisticRebel January 10, 2015 at 2:05 am #

    Reblogged this on IdealisticRebel's Daily View of Favorites.


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